Day 3: Myths

Today's topic is myths...how do you take a picture and capture that?  I chose a bridge...because there's there's this belief that when you get to 1 year, when you have another, when you go out for the first time.  So many things people think will make this journey easier.

A year ago when I was participating in this project, I was only a few weeks out...I didn't know that getting to one year wouldn't make it easier.  I had this idealistic thought that if I could just make it to one year.  That if I could just have another baby.  It would be easier.  That's a lie.  It's what we tell ourselves, I think, to get through the first year, but it's a lie.  A year doesn't make it easier.

The same myths exist around infertility.  That if you just get pregnant, it will get easier.  The fear will go away because you've overcome that hurdle.  Nope.  I was scared my entire pregnancy.  And now I will be doubly as scared during my next pregnancy until that baby is home...and even then, I'm sure I'll continue to be scared and worried about my baby every day of his or her life.

But the truth is...when I do finally bring that baby home, I know that it will be a new set of challenges.  It won't be easier, it will just be different.  You learn to accommodate your life to this new set of normals.  A life where two of your children are in heaven and you continue dealing with the infertility stuff.  A life where your living children learn that they have angel brothers, not two big brothers that are here to harass them.  A new life.  A different life.  Not an easier life...but a different one.